How can I stop being stressed?

How Can I Stop Being Stressed?

Do you ever have days where one thing goes wrong in the morning, like your child is sick, and one thing after another starts to mess up. You’re late and you spill coffee on your coat and there’s nobody at home to help you and your mind starts to come up with all these reasons why you are useless and clumsy and a bad mother and it’s no wonder you’re all alone because why would anyone want such a hot mess? Huh? Pretty sure it’s not just me…

And you start thinking things like “How can this day get any worse?” and you get to work and there’s a meeting that you forgot about and you have to go in late and everyone looks at you and you have to explain why you haven’t prepared anything and everyone keeps on looking at you and you’re wondering if you can get away with excusing yourself to go to the bathroom because that end stall has your name on it and that’s the place where you usually go to for a five minute cry.

Believe me, I get it. When you get to that toilet cubical say Hi from me because it knows me well.

How often do you sit on the bed and cry for a few minutes before putting on a smile and getting on with the day? How often do you hide from the kids in the bathroom while tears run down your face and then you pretend to be washing your face when one of them barges in and needs something from you? I’ve been there many times. You feel overwhelmed with all your emotions and the stress of having to hold it all together. You most definitely don’t feel like a goddess, right?

April marks the beginning of Stress Awareness Month in the UK. According to the Mental Health Foundation, 74% of adults in the UK have felt so stressed at some point over the last year they have felt overwhelmed or unable to cope. Furthermore, women are more likely to report experiencing higher levels of stress than men. In light of this, there is a growing need for effective stress management techniques, especially for women. Hypnotherapy has proven to be an effective tool to manage stress, and here’s how.

Hypnotherapy is a complementary therapy that uses guided relaxation, intense concentration, and focused attention to achieve a heightened state of awareness, known as trance. It helps individuals to access their subconscious mind, where most of our automatic behaviours, emotions, and thoughts are stored. Hypnotherapy can help women identify and challenge negative thought patterns, beliefs and behaviours that may be contributing to their stress levels. The process is non-invasive, safe and drug-free, making it an excellent option for stress management.

Women who opt for hypnotherapy will learn relaxation techniques, breathing exercises, visualisation and self-hypnosis, that can be used to manage stress and overwhelm on a day-to-day basis. Hypnotherapy helps individuals to regulate their emotions, reduce anxiety and depression, and develop a more positive outlook on life. It can also help to improve sleep quality, which is crucial in managing stress.

Here are my three simple tips to help you lower your stress levels when you feel overwhelmed and tearful:

Notice your breath: One of the easiest ways to reduce stress is to focus on your breath. After three calming breaths you can feel sweet relief on your in-breath and it feels really good. The reason why most people don’t notice their breath when they want to feel calmer is that they don’t tune in to how the air in their lungs feels, and they stop deep breathing before they get to the third breath. Try a pattern of breathing in for 6 counts and out for 8, three times.

Control your thoughts: Don’t let your thoughts spiral off into shame and blame towards yourself or others. Remind yourself that this is just a moment. Name your feeling by saying “A part of me is feeling…. “ (stressed, sad, guilty, embarrassed etc) but don’t label yourself by saying “I’m a bad person, I’m useless, I’m an idiot” etc. The feeling will pass, it is not you, it is just a part of you that feels this way. Probably the part of you that is stressed and overwhelmed is repeating negative patterns of beliefs and behaviours from when you were a child.

Self-Hypnosis: Self-hypnosis is a technique that can help you achieve a deep state of relaxation, and reduce stress and anxiety. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then, repeat a positive affirmation or mantra to yourself, such as “I am calm and I have got this” or “I am becoming who I need to be, I give myself time to get this right.” Focus on your breath and allow yourself to enter a state of deep relaxation while you repeat the words.

You can learn how to get into self hypnosis quickly and easily in my Inner Goddess group sessions. Check the website for details.

I hope that reading this blog helps you to realise that you’re not alone. Come along to my group sessions or work with me on my signature programme of hypnotherapy and coaching, the True Life Transformation, where I will help you to feel like a goddess again. You are beautiful, brave and bold, you are capable and strong. You’re an incredible woman. You’re a goddess.


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